Posts by Seeking Knowledge

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Newbie here......

by lavendar in

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i'm new to the forum.

i've never been a jw, but know someone who is.

if it's alright, i'd like to ask a question from time to time to help me understand why they believe the way they do.

Seeking Knowledge

Hi Lavender

Welcome!! I'm not a JW either...but they are in my life...this is a good place to get your questions answered!!

SK

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Has anyone had a hard time getting over a romantic relationship?

by love2Bworldly in

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i was dating someone for 18 months before i broke it off--he didn't want a committment and he would not even say that someday we might end up together as a couple.

it's been 2 years since we broke up and we both married other people.. i was deeply in love with this person, even with every last ounce of my soul.

(it was complicated and we both had kids.

Diana good luck! Sounds like you know what you have to do, he's been lying to her, then he's lying to you...it's clear that's not what you want anymore. Any man (or woman) that has another relationship going isn't worth the time. Much easier to say from the outside looking in of course.

I've found it difficult to get over my ex, he married right away after we broke up, and normally it would be ok for me to go through the mourning & move on, but I have to see him every single week and he brings the new wife with him. He acts as tho we never had a relationship (I guess somehow I managed to give birth to our son tho) and that is hard for me. Bringing her along and acting happy & perfect always seems like a slap in the face to me, but I see thru the lie. I know him, I know what he's done and I know why he did what he did. In those moments when it's just the two of us, (discussing our son) I can see it in his eyes. The good part of that is the only thing that stops me from taking two fingers & poking him in those melancholy eyes is the fact I know that he knows he screwed up. He has a part to play however, and he is doing his best to convince himself that he's happy.

I have my moments of "what if" but I've found, with time, those are few & far between. My heart no longer skips a beat when I see him or think about what she might have that I don't have and what not. Now when I see him I wonder what the heck I was thinking, he's pure evil most of the time and it's hard for me not to react to his idiocy, I have our son to think about there.

I think my biggest problem is dealing with his hypocrasy. Knowing he wasn't as into his religion as he pretends to be now, being a good little dub with his good little wife. Well, I've seen her other side and it ain't pretty, she's insecure and I guess it's easier to hate me than to hate the reason she's in her situation. I know she's got issues with him, but they must put on a happy face for everyone, especially me. Now that they have a new baby, I'm sure it's hard. He never was one for responsibility and well, now he's got it ten fold, and the cracks are showing. Revenge?? Nah..I feel sorry for that new baby more than anything. The man lives a lie, what does that mean for the baby?

IT does get better. Yes sometimes you only remember the good times, but my head has taken over for my heart and I know now that there were bad times as well and that is why we are where we are in our lives. Now my job is to make sure our son doesn't come out of this a stark raving lunatic! I have to be civil for the sake of my son.

Take care, it does get better! I've got 2 great kids to occupy my time and the knowledge that I'm much happier now with my life and it's because he's no longer in it. I look forward to my next challenges hopefully a little wiser!!

SK

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My new avatar? The well-hung squirrel is out... NICE TO MEET THE REAL ME!

by upside/down in

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i was afraid people might think i was trying to "compensate" for something... ya know it's a "guy" thing.

i'm told (jnbnz) it's a black and white pic of a couple.

because i can't... i think the deemunz have possesed my 'puter.

Seeking Knowledge

U/D...nice picture!!

Best wishes for you and your family.

SK

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Family ,what would you do

by kls in

i am going to try and explain this with out dragging this on so here goes, i am the youngest of four sibblings,i have a older brother which i never see and two older sisters.

i am close to my sister that is close in age to me but have a sister that is about ten years older.

when i was a teen my dad killed himself and the mother was a 24 hr mean drunk who after my dads death was committed to a nut ward.

Seeking Knowledge

(((KLS))))

I second most of everyone's posting. If it were me, I'd go make peace for myself. Forgiving does not mean you have to forget, but you need to move on with your life and do what's right by you. I'd go & get closure, and then be happy with yourself for being able to put a bad experience behind you and move on.

Good Luck!

SK

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New here...

by smorgle in

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hello everyone... this is my first post.

i stumbled upon this board a few hours ago, so i trolled for a bit and i like the discussions..

smorgle

Seeking Knowledge

Welcome! Come in sit down relax awhile!

SK

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Update on whyamihere and the little guy

by HadEnuf in

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good news.

whyamihere and my son's little guy will be coming home from the hospital (hopefully) later this afternoon.

he has regained 2 lbs.

Seeking Knowledge

Yay..glad to hear it. They sure can put us through alot of scares when they are little, I'm glad to hear all is well and he's doing better, he'll be back & bouncing before too long!

SK

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Please Keep whyamihere & her little son in your thoughts today

by HadEnuf in

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hello everybody...my daughter (in-law), whyamihere/brooke, has been at the hospital all day with her little boy, 1 yr. 4 months old...who has had such a bad case of the flu that they had to hook him up to an iv for fluid.

he was sick all last week and then was getting better...then took a turn for the worse yesterday.

can't keep anything down.

Seeking Knowledge

(((((((((brooke & son))))))))))))))

My thoughts are with you....hope he gets better soon!

SK

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You don't have to read this... Feedback Wanted

by Sparkplug in

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when i die may i please have chocolate cake?.

chapter 1. my birth.

i have always thought of my life like that.

Seeking Knowledge

You have a wonderful way of telling a story!! I can't wait for the rest of it!

SK

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Favorite Comedy Shows

by sandy in

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i just had surgery(gall bladder) this past week.

i am fine, thanks.

anyways, it hurts when laugh.

Seeking Knowledge

ooooo I remember the gall bladder surgery, the day after I had it done and I was still hooked up to morphine, my brother walked into my hospital room right as I hit the button for some relief & said in his best british accent:

"oh aren't you lucky?? The most expensive machine in the whooole hospital!! The one that goes PING"....I hurt...damn monty python!

Friends, Will & Grace (cracks me up), Joey and Scrubs..those are my favorites

Get well Sandy!

SK

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My JW "ex" girlfriend is going crazy (if anyone remembers me)...

by starcrossedpimp in

i wrote a while ago about the relationship i was in with a witness.

it's still posted under this category i believe.

anyway, it was her decision to go along with her parents and stop talking to me.

Seeking Knowledge

Hey SCP...good to hear from you again!! Sorry not much has changed.

You're right, she's confused, but SHE needs to decide what SHE wants to do. You're already there. She isn't going to risk losing her family for you. Nothing personal against you, but that's the truth.

My ex does the SAME THING...he treats me as if our relationship never happened (can't ignore the son but he does ignore the past) and it is so frustrating, my heart is just now healing. There have been a few times, very rare but they are there, when he comes to my house alone to pick up our son and I get a glimpse of the "old" ex. He's pleasant and it's almost a joy to be around him, he takes his time in leaving, has a look on his face that tells me he wants to say something and gets that sad face on. It never lasts. He goes right back to his life that he created where I dont exist. He treats me as if I am a stranger and not worthy of his time and that just bugs the crap out of me, but I'm in a better place now. I too went thru my relationship with him in a new light, especially after I found this site. It's amazing all the things I missed, or chose not to see. He chose the path he is on, and there is nothing at all I can do about that except try to co-exist with him as a parent. THAT is proving very difficult, but I'm working on it.

So, on to you..your girlfriend needs to sh*t or get off the pot. She needs to quit calling you and stringing you along. It sounds to me that she has already made her decision, but is having issues with that. Her age is a big factor, it's hard to walk away from your family and all you've known. I think you need to move on and let her go. It's not easy, but if she wants to be with you, she'll do the right thing FOR HER. UG...sucks doesn't it?

Take Care-SK